The Power of Manifestation and the Grind

As the end of the semester steadily approaches for many of us, it can seem like after endless amounts of homework and studying, a future career seems so far away in the distance. Even if you aren’t a current student fighting to survive, the future can seem very unsure, especially since the pandemic hit us all like a brick not too long ago. It may seem like that future career, family, lifestyle or whatever it is that you have been hoping for may seem so unlikely to happen. It may seem like your aspirations are too far for you to reach. Its times like these that our own self-doubt can leave us feeling extremely depressed and hopeless. It can honestly be truly soul crushing! Sometimes people can get to a certain point where they no longer feel it's even worth it anymore to hope for these things and end up settling for less. If I can give anyone any kind of advice at all, it would be DO NOT SETTLE!!! This is your life, and you deserve everything you want and more! Your dreams aren’t unreachable, the only thing that holds us back is ourselves! We only have one life to live, so we might as well give it our all. Wishful thinking you might interject, but I promise you there is a way to reach your goals and truly be happy in life. The answer to your prayers is manifestation and hard work! So just listen to me, as I’m going to show you how to get what you deserve in life with just a little brain power and energy focusing!

So, what even is manifestation? This word “manifestation” has been jumping around social media feeds and conversations in recent years and it all might just seem like a bunch of hocus pocus to you. While manifestation may seem like a dreamy wish you make for a better life, its far more concrete than that. Manifesting is creating the future you want for yourself before you even know what that is. It’s speaking your truth and your energy into the earth to achieve your objectives. Much like praying, manifesting their destiny, for many people, is something they do by simply taking time out of their day to speak to or through a higher power of some sorts to ask for what you need to accomplish. If you find yourself to be a less spiritual individual, it can be seen as a way to put your positive energy into the universe to receive that positive energy back through your gifts and achievements in life. In a scientific way, every living being contains energy so if you focus that positive energy into positive endeavors such as helping others and working hard, you will receive that positive energy back to you in your everyday life. If we tell the universe what we want, and speak on it every day, whether through prayer or actually physically saying allowed “I will become this” or “I will achieve that”, we are putting our brains in the mindset that we deserve what’s meant for us. In order to manifest your fate, you must be content with the ideal that you are one with this world and what’s meant for you will not pass you. By putting your intentions out into the universe, you’re allowing yourself to be surrounded by their positive influences and it will lead you to living a happier and healthier life. You must continuously reenforce these concepts within your mind to achieve what you desire.

Now, I know what most of you are thinking. You’re shrugging me off assuming, “Yeah right that’s a bunch of nonsense! You can’t just get what you want by speaking to it into the universe” and you would be correct! Manifestation only works if we truly put GOOD intentions into our world and if we work hard for the life we want as well. I am someone who was so blessed to be taught at a young age the importance of hard work as I was made to get a job when I first turned 15 and have always been expected to work hard in school. This has taught me you have to want your aspiration so badly that your grind never stops! You should be manifesting only your deepest desires and passions, and they should be the things you would work as hard as you can to obtain. Don’t let your own self-doubt deter you from being the best version of you that you can be! Remember, where attention goes, energy flows so focus your attention on your passions, and you will not be disappointed! For more information on how to manifest your destiny check out https://medium.com/manifestdestiny/what-is-manifest-destiny-a660483d65be, a great article on different ways to make what you desire come to life. Focus your energy positively, and I think you will surprise yourself with the power it will bring you! #manifestation #grind #manifestyourdestiny #destiny #hardwork #universe #goodvibes #positiveenergy #love

How to Tell if the Energy You’re Receiving is Really Genuine Optimism

Life can be truly and utterly exhausting. Sometimes life throws every curve ball it can at you, making you weak in the knees. Sometimes all you want to do is break down and cry. Truthfully, we all go through this at different times and in different stages in our lives and to put it in the simplest terms, it really does suck. Sadness is an emotion we all process in our own ways in our own time. Have you ever felt like a burden on others for simply feeling sad? Have you ever felt like your emotions are not only draining you, but also those around you? Perhaps you’re used to hearing, “I don’t need this negativity around me, good vibes only!” or perhaps it’s “You’re always so negative, why don’t you just try to be happier?” When our loved ones make these types of disheartening comments, many times they really do think they come from a place of love and positivity. But the truth is not all positivity is actually positive; and these cruel words really affect us a lot deeper than we think.

This trend of judgment is called toxic positively. Toxic positivity is when no matter how dire or grim someone's current circumstances may be, they are still encouraged to think happy thoughts and to be joyful. We are faced with this dilemma in our society because we are taught that being positive all the time is the only way to lead a happier, healthier life. And while staying positive is certainly so crucial to having a flourishing, more stress-free lifestyle, by concealing our emotions, we aren’t allowing ourselves to process the pain of sadness and grow from it. Instead, we withhold it deep within, and we let those emotions dwell within us. By allowing this toxic positivity to saturate our bodies, we are allowing our energy to become more and more negative, which leads to a life filled with conflict and grief; and oftentimes, it can affect our physical health too. By encouraging this kind of venomous “positivity”, we are invalidating the feelings of our loved ones who are grieving, and we are not letting ourselves embrace and grow from our own somber emotions. We need to encourage optimism over positivity. You can’t always stay positive, but you can always stay hopeful.

Genuine optimism is instead of telling your loved ones to be happier, its saying, “I see your pain and its okay. We will get through this together.” It’s reaching out a familiar, warm hand when someone you love feels alone. It's being a support system for our loved ones. It’s allowing yourself to grief completely and fully through the lowest points in your life. Pain is awful, and grueling and so taxing, but we need to process it in order to become better, more well-rounded people. So, when you hear someone tell you to “Get over it!”, or “It’s not that deep to cry about!”, always remember whatever you are feeling is valid and no one can tell you when it’s time for you to stop processing your pain. Healing is something we all do differently and in extremely varying amounts of times. Remember to remind your inner circle they are loved and deserve to heal. If your pain has become too much for you to process on your own, and you cannot reach an in-person therapist, therapy websites like Talkspace are great resources to talk to real licensed professionals. No matter what you are processing at this point in your life, remember to go easy on yourself, take care of yourself and try to embrace the love you have for yourself and others around you. You are not alone. #toxicpositivity #genuineoptimism #love #pain #healing #selflove #selfreflection

How to Get to Know Yourself in Order to Love yourself

It's so often that as a 21-year-old woman, living in the modern-day mess we call the United States I am told, “You just need to love yourself.” It’s actually the answer to any dilemma you may face as a female in our society. “I don’t like the way my hair looks today." You need to love yourself. “I’m having relationship troubles.” You need to love yourself. “I’m just not quite feeling myself lately.” You need to love yourself! It’s absurd how women are constantly being told how we should act and think but loving yourself can be way too terribly personal! Be happy, enjoy life and LOVE YOURSELF!!! But what does that really mean? The phrase is so quick to slip the lips of those who cast judgement, yet do they know if they even have that love for themselves? We are all so readily prepared to instruct woman to stop being so insecure and to simply love themselves, but it’s not such a black and white issue. Loving yourself isn’t loving your appearance every day, it's not always being able to appreciate the life you're living and it's certainly not even always appreciating the person you are. Truly loving yourself is a struggle everyone goes through to vastly varying extents. All humans crave love and affection, almost as greatly as food, water and shelter. Why do we need to look for that admiration through the eyes of one another? Why is it so hard now a days to reach that place? Is it in view of the fact that social media is poisoning our minds with diluted interpretations of what our bodies should look like and what our lives should be like? Maybe. Is it because of this miserable, never-ending pandemic that’s trapping us all in our houses like prisoners and forcing us to blow our stimulus checks on sweats and pizza rolls? Quite possibly. Truthfully, despite how it may seem, I actually don’t think the world is doomed and I don’t think all hope is lost. The truth is, to love yourself despite the outside forces affecting your life, first you have to get to know yourself, then you have to learn to enjoy your own company. So many people live their entire lives struggling to love the person they are before even taking the time to get to know that person. In order to achieve true blissful happiness, we must listen to our bodies, minds and souls.

The first step to loving yourself is getting to know who you really are. Getting to know how and why you act and think the way you do will help you understand crucial elements of yourself identity such as coping skills, how to understand and control your reactions to certain issues, and how to treat yourself to some joyousness and growth. Take a moment of silence to look at yourself through the mirror and really reintroduce yourself. What gets your blood pumping in exhilarating excitement? What makes your heart melt in admiration? When, where and how do you feel the most at home and comfortable in your own skin? I know this may seem overwhelming, so maybe start by taking a personal assessment quiz! A splendid way to identify your personality type is by taking a self-assessment quiz. One quiz I enjoyed, The VALS assessment quiz , can be described as, “a proprietary psychometric method that measures these and other predictive attitudes—in conjunction with behaviors and demographics,” Upon taking this quiz myself, I learned I am primarily an experiencer and am secondarily an innovator. I used this information to determine I for one, like most caught between the Millennials and Get Zs, crave fascinating visual stimulation, while also being future oriented and confident enough to try out new things! This information can help me determine what types of people, places and hobbies might invoke my passions, calm my nerves and simply fill me with joy. A different type of self assessment you may also want to dabble into is looking into your horoscope! Your horoscope not only tells you who you are as a person, but also divulges into different areas of your emotions such as the way you love, the way you get enraged, and how you go about achieving your aspirations in life. Co-star is an astrological app that provides you your entire birth chart based on your birthday, birth year, time of birth and place of birth. Is this not your slice of cake? If these evaluations aren’t giving you your desired information, sometimes the best way to get to know yourself can be to sit in silence and meditate. Sit with yourself quietly and listen to what your soul is trying to tell you. I enjoy using energy crystals when meditating because it helps me open up my chakras and feel calm. Mediation is a great way to get to know you while also finding a sense of inner peace. Getting to know who you truly are might take some serious time and determination, but it will surely get you to a happier, healthier you.

Now that you and your soul have become well acquainted, it's time to actually spend time with the real you! Loneliness and longing for someone to sweep you up off your feet will no longer be concerns for you as you learn to appreciate and cherish the time you have alone with yourself! Now I know, I know, how boring, right? WRONG! When you learn to cherish the time you have with yourself, you will open a whole new door of self-fulfillment! Indulge yourself in your passions and get creative whether that might mean painting a masterpiece of magnificence, running a marathon around your middle-class suburban community, or bingeing your favorite teen drama comedy for the 7th time. Whatever you choose to do, make sure it is something you can absolutely indulge and enjoy yourself in. Think of yourself as your own best friend, after all, you are the only person who will absolutely, positively be there for you at the end of every day.

Now for what seems like the hardest step, loving you. Well, if you really took the time to dive deep in my previously explained tasks, this isn’t so hard at all. Loving yourself means you will always support the person your soul wishes to become and encourage him/her even through your bad days. It means taking the extra time to care for yourself. The more time you devote to truly caring for yourself, as if you would a lover, the easier it will be to face the lemons life might chuck at you and make some awesome lemonade. For me, this means in my moments of solitude, I like to enjoy a steaming cup of chai-vanilla tea, throw on a ravishing rose gel face mask, melt into a bubbling vanilla bath and meditate. For you this might mean hiking or dancing or really anything that brings you to a place of inner bliss.

I know this may seem all peaches and cream, but the journey to love yourself is a long, strenuous path with many obstacles facing your way. You will have days where you convince yourself you are a gruesomely, hideous monster, who needs to be sheltered from society, and there will be days where you will want to scream your overloaded head off out of stress. However, the feeling of having the truest, most everlasting love with you everywhere you go will get you through. Self love is real love and it needs to be developed thoroughly overtime. #selflove #selfcare #meditate #crystals #growth #love #selfgrowth #selfacceptance

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